March 21 08

well, at least some of you…like Rae, and Angella, and Maria…you wanted to know how the husband and i got together….

Photobucket (this is the only picture i can find online of us before we got married. we are BABIES. mmmm…Oreo O’s…)

high school for me was about many things. my friends. yearbook. getting my license. getting into college. mostly, though, it was about boys. there were boys that mattered. boys that didn’t matter. boys that didn’t know i was alive. and boys that i didn’t know were alive. I was awkward-looking to say the least, but i had big boobs and a jeep, which, it seems, is what worked back then. When i graduated high school, i had plans to spend a year abroad finding myself partying in Israel before going on to college in Boston. At the end of the year, I ended things with someone that i had an on-again off-again relationship with. it was complicated to say the least. But i was going to Israel unattached, and i was glad.

unattached, of course, until i went to camp that summer. All my friends were going to be counselors, but i was stuck with the shit-job of Spare Counselor. to me, this meant “not good enough to be an actual counselor” but really, it was AMAZING. same money as an actual counselor, but you only had to work about 14 days for the entire summer. i filled in when each female counselor took her day off, and if someone was sick. on other days, the only thing i needed to work on was my tan.

With a lot of free time on my hands, i met many new people. one of these was my future husband. He was not my type….but he was a guy who could sing “she talks to angels” better than anyone i’d ever heard. and it sparked my interest. it also sparked my interest that he was nice. most guys i liked in high school were not nice. he listened when i talked. he cared about what i had to say. and his family ate dinner together every night. this was something i couldn’t fathom. my sister and i ate defrosted eggo waffles standing up at the kitchen counter for dinner while my parents were at work.

I had plans to enjoy the summer with him, but of course, break things off before i left the country. BUT, the future husband had a best friend. a friend who was sick. a friend who was dying. Two things happened that summer before i left for Israel. The future husband lost his best friend. and the future husband told me he was going to marry me. I was 18. and young. and emotional. and stupid. and stubborn. and headstrong. and we stayed together. and we got married five days before i turned 20. It was a quick rollercoaster ride. and i shocked the hell out of my family and friends who told me i was making a mistake and that maybe i shouldn’t marry someone just because his dying best friend told him that he should marry me.

at the time, though, i was hearing none of it. i was a stubborn girl. and i was going to prove them all wrong. i was in love, and why did anything else matter? it would work itself out. in hindsight…should we have waited? maybe. was it silly of me to get married so young? possibly. do i wish that i had gone to Boston and had a ‘conventional’ college experience? definitely. no question. do i wish we’d both been more financially stable before we got married? of course.

but the husband and i? we work. we made it work. we’ll be celebrating our TEN YEAR anniversary in May. Sure, we’ve been through shitty times and we’ve been through good times. we’ve made three beautiful children. we’ve bought a house. we’ve been through job losses and job advancements. We are best friends. and we have lots of sex. We share a lovely little life together. We are each individual people, but we are also a team.

(and Cristan? He is three years older than i am, and he’s is a director at a company that makes software for tv stations. i have no clue what that means. all i know is that he’s busy and he works in computers. i guess that’s all i really need to know, right?)

  1. This is such a cute story! I love the wedding picture! Very 90201. 🙂

    Comment by AndreAnna on March 21, 2008
  2. you guys are adorable. truly.

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  3. Wow what a great story. I’m happy for both of you!!

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    Comment by Miss on March 21, 2008
  4. Aw … a true love story. Thanks for filling us in! 🙂

    Comment by Rae on March 21, 2008
  5. This was BEAUTIFUL! As are the both of you.

    Hooray for ten years!

    It will be eight for us this year. We met in November, got engaged in December, and got married in May (five months later).

    Love is a commitment, and you two are living proof!

    And can I just say again that you are both beautiful?


    Comment by Angella on March 21, 2008

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  7. oh, you are just too cute! i’m glad everything worked out so well for you and the hubby. 10 years – woot!

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  8. I think you’re BOTH full time hotties! ; )

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    Comment by Cristan on March 21, 2008
  9. I second what Cristan said! 😉

    Comment by Alli ~Mrs. Fussypants on March 21, 2008
  10. Wow, what a story. You guys are adorable!

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  11. This is a beautiful story – truly. My husband and I are coming up on ten years of marriage, too. A DECADE. That is a LONG time!

    Comment by Rebecca on March 21, 2008
  12. Great story!

    There are always things that can be different. It’s how you cope and move forward together that matters.

    My husband is 12 years older than me and he says he wishes he met me earlier in life. That would have been too young for me. I was immature then and would have never looked twice at him.

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  13. aaaw a lovely story!

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  14. awwwww 🙂

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  15. That’s a great story! Isn’t it amazing what love pulls you through?

    Comment by PamperedBunz on March 21, 2008
  16. Thanks for sharing Ali! I love hearing how people met and especially how they make it work. I too got married at 19 and we will celebrate 14 years this summer! I think you just choose. Choose to love, choose to stay, choose to work on stuff.

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    Comment by Kristen on March 21, 2008
  17. Great story! I too got married young and think it works great, we’ve grown together…


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  18. Love this story. 🙂

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  19. Nice story…love gets you through.

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  20. You got the most necessary qualities in a mate as far as I’ve been able to see, willingness to listen, willingness to work with you, and loves his family unconditionally:)

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  21. That is a cool story. My partner and I have been together just as long, from the same age – but we STILL haven’t got married. Go figure.

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    Comment by SleepyNita on March 22, 2008
  22. You guys are also adorable!

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  23. You guys are totally BABIES in that first picture. WOW!

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  24. What a great story – I’m glad to hear that you guys made it work. Happy Anniversary in May (in case I forget)!

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  25. I would have *never* guessed this story – that was an awesome post!

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  26. It’s always nice to hear of a fellow child bride. I was (almost) 20 too when Steve and I tied the knot.

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  27. Thank you for sharing your story. I love to read and learn about what things shaped a person to make them who they are now. You have a great story!

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  28. Great story. 🙂 Thanks for sharing. Okay okay, I was an old hag when I got married! Lol! 21 was the age, right here. 😉 Y’all are so cute though. 🙂 Love the pics!

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  29. Fabulous story with an amazing ending. Thanks for opening up and sharing that. You guys are a gorgeous couple!

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  30. Just before our tenth anniversary in 2006, I wrote out the entire story of our relationship. It featured much of the same details. I was leaving the city that summer. We were 18. Everyone figured we were being stupid when I returned the next summer and moved in togther. Even more stupid when we got married when we were barely 21. Almost 12 years later they’ve all shut their mouths!

    Love your story, Ali. It’s SO YOU.

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    Comment by Chantal on March 23, 2008
  31. Happy soon-to-be 10th anniversary, and happy Easter!

    I was married almost five years ago at the age of 23 (Mike and I met shortly after I turned 18) and I still think we married too young. But you’re right… you make it work and try to stay madly in love because that’s what gets you through the times that you want to physically harm each other with the nearest heavy blunt object.

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  32. That is a great story – I envy people who met their great loves young – it just gives you such a head start. You look so loving and happy together!

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  33. Thanks for sharing! I love hearing how people meet, especially such a young love – it’s so “romantic movie/chick flick”. I was so opposite, married at 34, partied my a** off in my 20’s, could not even imagine having kids then…

    Comment by Maria on March 24, 2008
  34. I loved loved loved this post.

    I should share how Bryan and I met. It’s not nearly as tear-jerkery.

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  35. Seems my hubby, Rob, read your post before I did! I agree with what he wrote. I love hearing your story and happy anniversary.

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  36. What a great story! And I love the pics that go with it. You guys are adorable.

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