July 10 08

i consider myself to have been raised right. well, that’s not entirely true. my sister and i are actually shocked that we managed to grow up to be actual functioning members of society and not banging our heads against some padded wall all girl interrupted style.

only with way better hair and probably less dead chicken carcasses under our beds.

but crazyali aside…i’m a polite person. i say my pleases and thank yous. i say yes ma’am and no sir. i say “excuse me?” instead of “what?” or “huh?” and try my damndest not to say the word “yup” (because that word? gives. me. the. shakes.)

so, it caught me by surprise this morning when i held the door open for someone, even though she was miles away, and even though i had three bags and my grande nonfat iced latte (hot this morning warranted a cold coffee. i’ve never done this before) in hand….that she didn’t say thank you.

and before my innerAli could stop myself, i blurted out


i guess i say my pleases and thank yous. but i’m still a bitch.

so..remember my bald daughter?

she was born bald..

and was bald at age 1…

and bald at age 2..

but right before she hits age 3….well…lookie what we have here…

a head full of CURLS.

(ps. she’s watching Enchanted in the background. it’s all we watch these days. “mommy, i need princess ‘iselle”)

and a mother who is freaking out. have you seen MY hair? STRAIGHT. i don’t know how to deal with curly hair. SEND HELP. STAT. or she’s going to be that giant frizzball walking around that you take one look at and are all “what’s wrong with her mother? didn’t she ever teach her about product?!?!”

product? the only product my stick straight hair needs is SHAMPOO and CONDITIONER. i’ve glanced past the product shelves and have been all confused…mousse? gel? hairspray? what are these things? what are they used for?

and finally…answer me this…

the last song i listened to was _________________

(my answer: Happiness is a Warm Gun by The Beatles. which, incidentally, is my all-time favorite Beatles song.)

  1. A little mousse will probably do the trick… not too much, just a little to stop the frizz.

    And the song question? Empty Walls by Serj Tankian

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    Comment by SciFi Dad on July 10, 2008
  2. Song question – “It’s a Small World” and I have no idea who sings it. Disney Singers. Matt and I sing it in stereo.

    As for the hair – buy a good detangler! Try melonheads. Their products are kind of pricey, but they are pretty good.

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    Comment by LD on July 10, 2008
  3. I have curly hair – or shall we say frizzy-hair-that-requires-much love-and-attention. It took me 20 years to figure it out. Here’s the 2 giant secrets: Don’t wash with shampoo more than 1x a week (and then only the roots) and NEVER EVER BRUSH! When you give the cutie a bath, use conditioner, but skip the shampoo. Curly hair needs the natural scalp oils to keep the frizz under control and curly hair is much drier than straight hair, so shampoo just dries it out. A cream vs. gel also works the best for maintaining those gorgeous curls all day long!

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    Comment by Kate on July 10, 2008
  4. I have the same predicament: my 4 year old daughter inherited my husband’s lovely, Shirley-Temple ringlets. My hair is completely straight so this was all new to me! I have been using adult hair products on her for two years, Herbal Essences Shampoo (leave it on for just a minute and then rinse) and Pantene Conditioner. I let that sit for like 5 minutes and then rinse. Then I just pick it out. Detangler can really make curls dry so you are better off just using water.

    Comment by Jenn on July 10, 2008
  5. Ooh, that bugs the hell out of me when people don’t thank you for holding the door!
    And okay, coming from a fellow stick straight hair sister, I am so jealous of those beautiful curls!!
    Lastly, Africa by Toto. Love that song!!

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    Comment by Katie on July 10, 2008
  6. Two out of 3 daughters have curls, and since mine is relatively straight, my oldest was tortured by me in her younger days, since I didn’t know how to deal with her big ringlets. I figured out how to cope with it when she was like 3, and I realized a good detangler worked wonders, as well as lots of conditioner(her hair is very thick). I use Aveda detangling spray, and it’s really great. My youngest was also bald until about 2 1/2, and now also has a big head of curls. I find that because hers is thinner, just the detangler is fine. I also don’t wash with shampoo more than once or twice a week. It just doesn’t get as frizzy.

    Comment by Amberlea on July 10, 2008
  7. I’m no help. My kids & I all have stick straight hair. Last song? “Girlfriend” by Avril Lavigne. Love the video, it’s hilarious!

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    Comment by celticbuffy on July 10, 2008
  8. My little one’s hair held steady for her first couple years then started growing growing growing. In fact, we are taking her for her first haircut next week.

    Last song… The Same Fire by Bishop Allen

    Comment by J. on July 10, 2008
  9. I have curly hair. Good luck with that. I have been through 1000 products trying to fight the frizz with little luck. Hopefully her youthful, healthy hair will be easier. I will suggest that you always use conditioner and try the basic gels first.

    Love the stranger “you are welcome”. I have done the same thing in my head. Speak out!

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    Comment by HRH on July 10, 2008
  10. 2 Buck 4 TV. Tha J-squad…

    Comment by Giblet on July 10, 2008
  11. I have very curly hair and will tell you what I wish my Mother had known when I was growing up—do NOT brush her hair when it is dry! Johnson and Johnson no more tangles worked well for me as a detangler, not sure if they even make that anymore! I personally find I NEED to shampoo every day. And gel works better than any cream/mousse. But then again I have very thick hair. You should not need product for her for a while yet. Good luck!

    Comment by NEWMOM on July 10, 2008
  12. Is it possible that I could borrow her hair for a while? So gorgeous! I can send my stick-straight stringy hair to her in the meanwhile. No? Ok then.

    I would recommend Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine Anti-Humidity Smoothing Milk. Long name, but it just takes away the frizz and leaves hair smooth. Just slick it on when wet, and it dries all pretty! It also (BONUS!) protects the hair from damage.

    The last song I listened to was New Soul by Yael Naim or Pocketful of Sunshine by Natasha Bedingfield – I can’t remember which.

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    Comment by Sarah on July 10, 2008
  13. Julia’s hair used to be really, really curly. It’s not so much any more, but when it’s humid, the curls come ’round. I use a leave-in conditioner that I bought in the salon – can’t remember the name of it (I’m too lazy right now to run upstairs and check, but if you want the name, email me and I’ll give it to you), but I put it in her hair when it’s wet.

    I also use a spray called Curls Rock! that helps to lessen tangles but accentuate the curls. It works really well on her hair.

    Dude – what you said to that lady this morning? I do that all. the. time. I can’t STAND it when I go out of my way to do something nice for someone else and they just walk on by like their shit doesn’t stink.

    And the last song I listened to was the Sesame Street theme song. “Sunny days, sweepin’ the clouds away…”

    Comment by mamatulip on July 10, 2008
  14. The last song I listened to was “Dear Claudia” by South FM.

    Also, you are soooo not a bitch. THAT WOMAN? A BITCH.

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    Comment by She Likes Purple on July 10, 2008
  15. Wait you aren’t supposed to sass the person who ignored the fact that you were so kind as to hold the door open for them?
    Crap…I guess I am a bitch too then!

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    Comment by Clink on July 10, 2008
  16. I have wanted to say that to people so many times but never had the guts. Next time I’ll do it in honor of you. lol

    I dunno what you’re going to do with those curls but they are pretty stinkin’ adorable!

    My last song…I think…was Dirty and Left Out by The Almost. Loving them right now.

    Comment by AJ on July 10, 2008
  17. It was worth the wait for all those pretty curls!

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    Comment by Renee on July 10, 2008
  18. I hate when people don’t say thanks.
    Curls…dunno, but my wife would.
    Last Song: Come Downstairs and Say Hello by Guster

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    Comment by Hockeyman on July 10, 2008
  19. You’ve already gotten lots and lots of product recommendations, but the one thing I haven’t seen mentioned is DO NOT BRUSH IT. EVER. (ok, sometimes) my hair is very curly naturally, but also blondish (thus thinish if it were straight), I wash it, condition it, and then get out any knots or tangles with my fingers while it’s wet, scrunch in some product and I’m ready to go (with air drying, which is usually the drive to work).

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    Comment by El on July 10, 2008
  20. Oh her curls are so cute!

    Comment by Ruby on July 10, 2008
  21. Regina Spektor Samson…if her hair is thin just use some detangler.if thicker use good conditioner.

    Comment by LAVENDULA on July 10, 2008
  22. How do you feel about “yep” instead of “yup”?

    The last song I listened to was some crap by Aerosmith being played while Howard Stern played butt bongos on some lesbian’s ass.

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    Comment by Assertagirl on July 10, 2008
  23. Uh-oh….looks like your husband may have been a little too friendly with the curly-haired milk-lady….:}

    Last song: Jolene, by The Weepies.

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    Comment by Backpacking Dad on July 10, 2008
  24. last song: Viva la vida.

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    Comment by Teri on July 10, 2008
  25. My daughter has incredibly curly, and often frizzy, hair.

    I just let her go with it because the crazy disheveled look goes well with the tantrums.

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    Comment by Matthew on July 10, 2008
  26. I can totally relate. My baby girl is pretty bald right now and she is almost 1, but the hair she does have is curly. I love it, but have no idea how I will deal with it. My hair is straight and thin so the only products I use are volumizing ones.
    Last song: Jason Mraz, I’m yours, love it but it’s been in my head all day.

    Comment by Sarah on July 10, 2008
  27. The last song I listened to was Wyclef Jean, sweetest girl. I don’t normally like this kind of music but I just love this album.

    Little kids with curly hair?! THE CUTEST!!

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    Comment by Kristie on July 10, 2008
  28. My daughter and I both have naturally curly hair. The key to survival is coming it with a widetooth comb after a bath. oh, and the no tangle spray. So far it has worked wonders for us.

    Comment by Shamelessly Sassy on July 10, 2008
  29. OK I have a few comments.

    1) You are giving me hope anout my own bald daughters. They are 8 months old and have only a tiny bit of hair.

    2)Your daughter has beautiful curly hair. Mine is what I like to call a “Jew Fro” that was frizzy and crazy. If you dont believe me look back to my posts in May.

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    Comment by Maya on July 10, 2008
  30. OMG I am so in love with those curls!! I cant help you with them though since my hair is a tragic mess. I just recommend lots of conditioner! Stay away from tangles!

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    Comment by Miss on July 10, 2008
  31. Both my girls were born with some dusting of hair – blonde by the way (I am very brunette). By age 8 months, they had glorious curls – by age 2 long golden sun kissed ponytails and by age 4, we have about 20 inch ponytails (mom, my hair is in my butt crack!) The older one donated hers to Locks of Love at age 6…the little one is still growing it. It is magnificent hair, too.

    oh- and last song was something annoying from Radio Disney.

    Comment by swirl girl on July 10, 2008
  32. Sweet Jeezus, that is one gorgeous head of hair. I’d shave my head for two years if I could end up with those curls in the third.

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    Comment by kgirl on July 10, 2008
  33. Is it bad that I’m envious of a 3 year olds hair?!

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  34. I have straight hair like yours, so I am no help. I wish I had curls, though!

    The last song I listened to was “Jailhouse” by Sublime. Listening to some old-school So Cal music.

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    Comment by heather on July 10, 2008
  35. Oh, aren’t her curls lovely! I would just go with that J&J detangler shampoo when it gets a little longer. Because the babies? They no likey the hairbrush with the curls. My niece was like a worm on a sidewalk.

    Also, rude people suck.

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    Comment by Jemima on July 10, 2008
  36. ok, song: Jason Mraz, I’m Yours…love it

    Hair…Addy is getting those fabulous ringlets in the back as well…I’ve been keeping them alive by combing her conditioner through her hair to keep the tangles at bay and then spraying a little Biolage (Ok, it was leftover!) leave in tonic to keep it cooperative and curly throughout the day…it kind of works like a texturizer.

    Good luck with that pretty hair!

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    Comment by Christine on July 10, 2008
  37. Mousse! Gel is too heavy. I like Herbal Essences myself.

    Also – you = all sorts of awesome 😉

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    Comment by Angella on July 10, 2008
  38. Oh my god, what gorgeous curls!

    I’m not sure about little girl hair, but for my big girl curls, I put a bit of conditioner back into my hair after my shower, before I dry it. Just on the ends really, to keep the frizzes somewhat at bay.

    Comment by Queen of Shake Shake on July 10, 2008
  39. You realize people PAY to get hair like that? It’s so cute, I hope she keeps it forever.

    Last song: How To Save A Life, The Fray

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    Comment by thecoconutdiaries on July 10, 2008
  40. LOVE her hair!! But I will warn you…. my girls, when they grew their hair long for the first time, had curls. I wouldn’t worry TOO much about it yet. Because my curly-haired girls, now have straight hair like their mom. 🙁

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    Comment by Jay on July 10, 2008
  41. Last song: “Not tonight”, Tegan and Sara

    I have super straight hair too, so no advice for the curls. Sorry!

    Comment by Lindsey on July 10, 2008
  42. The Baby has curly hair too. I use a detangling kids’ shampoo AND a good conditioner and I comb it with a wide-toothed comb while it’s wet and braid it, pre-bed. I use some sort of Dove smoothing cream while I’m brushing her hair in the morning, and when I want her to look fancy, I use a glossy de-frizzing spray.

    Hello, my name is Beck, and I use too much product on my baby’s hair.

    Oooh! Here’s another one – I buy bitty little elastics in packages of 100 from the dollar store and then I just snip them out of her hair in the evening, rather than pulling her hair taking them out. MUCH easier.

    Last song, eh? Something by Nina Simone…. “Love Me Or Leave Me.”

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    Comment by Rebecca on July 10, 2008
  43. You don’t even use mousse? For volume? It makes me look better. For five minutes.

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    Comment by Heather on July 10, 2008
  44. If it’s anything like my little monkey’s, you need a good detangling comb…. Or, like me, you’ll just get used to the matted parts….

    Last song I listened to was…hmmm, I can’t remember! But, I know I was listening to Proud 103.9, so it was probably George Michaels or Kylie Minogue

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    Comment by Haley-O on July 10, 2008
  45. Um, I’ve said “you’re welcome” too when people have not said thank you who clearly should have.

    You can always pretend that you thought you heard them say thank you – I mean, what cro-magnon wouldn’t?

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    Comment by KC on July 10, 2008
  46. What a wench. Seriously.


    I envy you. Or people with curly or wavy hair.

    I am stuck with hair that is wavy enough that I have to straighten it but not wavy enough to leave it be. BOO.

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    Comment by Loralee on July 10, 2008
  47. Whenever I take my girls to the pool, I take a bottle of conditioner and leave it in their hair. It softens the curls.

    Her hair is gorgeous, Ali.

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    Comment by ohmommy on July 10, 2008
  48. The curls went to The Little Man in our family…I got nothing for you…They sure are cute though:)

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  49. Given my mood lately, I would have ADDED bitch to the end of the “your welcome.”

    Comment by gorillabuns on July 10, 2008
  50. I also vote for the cream, not mousse or gel. Finesse has a good one, although hard to find. I’m using the Sunsilk one now. Wide tooth comb is also great.

    Last song; Nine in the Afternoon Panic at the Disco. Favorite song of the moment.


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    Comment by Jenn on July 10, 2008
  51. my advice for the curls, DON’T CUT THEM YET! i cut my monkey’s off, by accident (not her first hair cut either!!!), and they didn’t grow back. they looked just like hers do. shampoo every other bath, condition lots. j&j still makes a good detangler, smells like the baby shampoo (yum). don’t worry about expensive products for her hair. let it hair dry more than not, brush (yes i said it) sparingly. (though, baby brushes make it shine so pretty.)

    l-o-v-e, michael buble

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    Comment by zeghsy on July 11, 2008
  52. Biosilk! (silk therapy) Pea size drop through her damp hair, it’s the most amazing stuff EVER. BEWARE-you will not be able to keep your nose out of her hair, it smells that good.

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    Comment by K.... on July 11, 2008
  53. I always do the loud YOU’RE WELCOME to people who don’t say thanks. I do it in the car too when people don’t say thanks for my kindness in letting them merge. I don’t remember the last song I heard. But I know my favorite Beatles song is “In My Life.”

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    Comment by Kristabella on July 12, 2008
  54. I was just rearranging my iTunes library so this is tough. But I think the last thing I was listening to was something off the last Aimee Mann album.

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