January 26 07

having a normal bedtime, like, say 7:00, was a milestone that for each of my kids, i certainly did not take lightly. it was one of the best, in my books. it was up there with first steps. seriously. i’m not kidding here. it was that transition from not having your nights to all of a sudden having evenings that are all to yourself. you can watch tv without a baby crying! you can read a book without having to breastfeed a baby at the same time! you can go to the bathroom! you can RELAX.

because of this, i’ve sort of adopted this philosophy with my husband. if you aren’t going to come home before bedtime, when i really need you, i don’t care when you come home. this might sound…i don’t know..kinda harsh, but i assure you, it’s not. think about it. if he’s not going to be home during that crunch time between school and bed when the kids are cranky, exhausted, insane; if he’s not going to come home to help with dinnertime, or bedtime, then there’s no reason to rush home.  

also, i’m SO not the kind of wife to begrudge him his time. his time with his friends. his hockey time. the meetings for all the committees that he’s on. i don’t mind when he’s out at night, usually, in fact, i enjoy it. My friend Orah and i were just discussing yesterday how nice it is sometimes to just put on pajamas and veg out in front of the tv. eat when you want. watch what you want. it’s actually kinda nice.

except last night, i really needed him. it started out great. i crawled into bed at 7:15, watched the OC and then Grey’s Anatomy. curled up with Love in the Time of Cholera (which has been on my to-read list for far too long). and then at 10:30, i turned off the light to go to sleep.

and there is was. the coughing. the crying. the gagging. it was yet another night of Joshie coughing himself into a stupor. he was scared and shaking and he. couldn’t. stop. coughing. so, i was scared and shaking, too. I couldn’t calm him down. and i couldn’t really calm myself down either. we were a great pair, the two of us.

now, normally, when the husband’s out, i don’t call him. i’m not one of those wives. (i’m the kind who sends him nudies of myself while he’s out at a bachelor party. yes, i’m the goods 🙂 ) but last night i called. i wanted him home. i wanted his help. i wanted his company. i wanted to sleep.

it’s been 5 days since i’ve slept. and i could really use it.

speaking of Grey’s Anatomy

~could i heart Bailey any more? seriously, this woman can do no wrong. i hearted her yelling at the chief for not telling her about his retirement. and when she brought the four childish attendings down to size. and when she said, “Izzy Stevens!” Bailey’s going to make a great chief 🙂

~can’t say i was expecting either proposal. Burke sure wins in his delivery. wow. it was amazing. what thinks you? who says yes? who says no?

~while i appreciate the Alex and Addison non-pairing, it’s painfully obvious that Alex is lying through his teeth. he’s hot for Addy.

~and it wouldn’t be grey’s if i didn’t end up in tears by the 42 minute. The Amish girls? George and Izzy’s hug? weeping, i was. i cried more than when George’s dad died.

~best scene of the night? the four attending sitting on the floor. how very time-outy of them 🙂 also? the dinner party where Cristina was eating cereal off to the side? classic!

~we all knew the money was coming from Izzy. but, the gesture was sweet just the same.

  1. Ugh! I hate it when the kiddies are sick! Havy you tried Mucinex? or Delsyum? They’re both OTC for cough and are both great for sleep.
    Hope they’re better soon!

    Comment by bella ~ Liz on January 26, 2007
  2. Darn..I don’t watch Grey’s Anatomy! So I was lost on all of that. Oh well.

    I would have called the hubby too. Sometimes you just need some help. I’m all about letting hubby go out w/ friends, etc too. As long as he lets ME do it w/ MY friends. That’s the deal. Take it or leave it. LOVE the idea of sending nudies to hubby during a bachelor party. That rules.

    Comment by Anna on January 26, 2007
  3. I agree that Burke’s proposal wins… and I really liked the way they did Bailey last night.

    Sorry to hear your night was so rough though.

    Comment by Jeff on January 26, 2007
  4. If it makes you feel any better, after Grey’s I had to do work- like, work work on a proposal that had to be sitting in someone’s email inbox this morning. Not exactly the night I had planned, but I did get an uniterrupted nights sleep, at least.

    Comment by Obabe on January 26, 2007
  5. Well, I kind of think neither will accept the proposal. And yeah it was a great episode. Bailey is the best. She already rules the roost. I can’t imagine them making anyone but Sloane chief in the meantime – it would just cause so much trouble. But I’m probably wrong on all counts.

    So sorry about the sick one and my you are the best wife, and I understand. I treasure my alone time too, so if he’s not going to be there to help, I agree, what’s the point.

    Comment by Rebecca on January 26, 2007
  6. Sorry Joshie is sick .. bummer for him and for you. But what I think is totally awesome is that you were able to be lying in bed at 7:15 .. were all kids asleep already?
    Grey’s has made me ball two weeks in a row, the omish friend, totally great – now THAT is a friend. I could weep again just thinking about that scene.
    Did ya see Calli’s face ..lol, what will she say?!
    I guess Burke may be just taken off the show, which will be wierd, I mean .. if they don’t kill him off, how will Christina be acting.. and what’s with a proposal if he’s going off the show. Tune in next week for answers to these, and may other questions!!

    Comment by Sarah on January 26, 2007
  7. Oh, how I am loving Greys right now!
    We are in the process of watching Season 2 on DVD too, it’s kinda funny to watch the current episode and then watch an oldie! A bit confusing, but fun!

    Comment by Amanda on January 26, 2007
  8. Oy! I hope Joshi’s okay! Did you get any sleep last night!? Love in the Time of Cholera is one of my all-time favourite books. I totally missed it when I was done, for a long time. Missed all the beauty it totally added to my life (corny as that sounds). It’s beauty — the definition of it.And, it’s funny and so sweet and just awesome. Enjoy!!! YOU SEND NUDIE PICS OF YOURSELF TO THE HUBBY!? NO WAY!! You’re a really good wife…. 😉

    Comment by Haley-O on January 26, 2007
  9. Loved all the same Grey’s stuff. I can’t get past Burke the character after all the hoopla about the actor. So I want Christina to say, “Not just no, hell no!”

    I have always been the wonder-wife who never complains when hubby goes out after work…although nudie pics…hmmm, haven’t done that. Can I send him nudie pics of you? It was actually fun one night when I was pregnant with #1 child and he called at 3 a.m. on a Friday morning and said the “Happy Hour” had continued and he was now in Little Haiti while his car was back at the office. The most fun was that once he got home after many hours of drinking, the alarm went off at 6 and he had to go to work!!! I giggled all morning1

    Comment by Di on January 26, 2007
  10. I hope tonight’s better and that it includes a long and solid block of sleep…and time to read. 😉

    Comment by mamatulip on January 26, 2007
  11. Hope Josh is feeling better! A friend of mine’s son was just diagnosed with Whooping cough, so perhaps you should get him tested? Apparently it is going around.

    And Grey’s? I cried through it as well!

    Comment by Naomi (Urban Mummy) on January 28, 2007
  12. Oh the coughing. We are going thru that here as well. AND, littlegirl vomited ALL LAST Monday night.

    I get what you are saying about being solitary and I begrudge my man nothing in terms of his going out time as well. But last year I had to call him home from a Basketball game, it was THAT bad.

    Hope everyone feels better and you get some sleep and that nasty cough goes away (he might need a puffer to get over it???)

    Comment by anne/crazymumma on January 28, 2007
  13. ((((hugs))))
    Nothing worse! I hope that you get some sleep fast, lady!
    Sorry for being MIA-trying to get back on the blogroll wagon after the holidays. Will stop back in soon to see if you guys are doing better.
    (((more hugs)))

    Comment by Stacie on January 28, 2007
  14. UGH!! Yeah, I can say “been there, done that” with the sick kids this past weeks, and the sleep deprivation!! I just hope you’ll get some r&r very soon.

    As for Grey’s, didn’t expect those proposals at all. I don’t care for George’s character much. He’s so annoying to me. I’d say a “no” to George. Cristina and Burke’s proposal, a maybe.

    Comment by Waya on January 29, 2007
  15. Grey’s Anatomy–I want Baily for Chief of Surgery, she’s the only one who isnt nutso. as for proposals I so didn’t see either one coming. I’m still in shock on those lol.

    Comment by Anne on January 29, 2007
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