July 7 10

Yesterday, I saw Josh walking around the house with a baby doll that he was calling Max.

At first I thought…WHO IS THIS BOY? I mean, my son, who has grown up with two sisters and a plethora of “girl” toys has never once wanted to play with them. Barbies, princesses, dress-up clothes, strollers, babies, castles, my little ponies. Our house is full of them. But my boy has always been into trucks and trains and dinosaurs and Bakugan and Star Wars and Indiana Jones and his DS and his wii and his light sabers and Avatar the Last Airbender and baseball and fart jokes.

A doll, a doll, Joshie wants a doll
A doll, a doll, Joshie wants a doll

Then I thought…Is this weird, my boy cuddling a baby?

Then I thought…No, it’s NOT weird even a little bit. It means that he’s sensitive. It means that he’s going to be a good father. I am an equal opportunity parent, I’m Marlo Thomas and Alan Alda! This is 2010! My son can be anything he wants – isn’t that amazing?

A doll, a doll, Joshie wants a doll
A doll, a doll, Joshie wants a doll

I remember when Josh was a wee little thing and my mother-in-law wanted to buy him a Cabbage Patch Kid. At the time, I politely refused the offer. I hadn’t taken the time to think about it and my first instinct was just, probably like many parents, why does my boy need a doll? But I realized, yesterday, watching my son walk around with his baby, that I should encourage this. Not only was this baby doll NOT ELECTRONIC (wheeee!) but I was seeing a different side to my son…a nurturing, caring side.

It was kind of wonderful.

Until he went and stuck his light saber straight through Max’s chest and then told me that he wants to be a Sith Lord when he grows up.

SITH LORD. You know, like this guy…

….and people worry about their boys wanting to play with dolls.

  1. Well, if he does become a sith lord, you will be safe from harm. Sith lords are pretty protective of their mamas.

    Comment by Hockeymandad on July 7, 2010
  2. It’s innate to boyhood, there’s nothing you can do. Give a boy a doll (or a toy oven, or a toy vacuum cleaner, or a tube of lipstick) and he’ll turn it into a gun.

    Isn’t it crazy, though, how we tend to question everything gender-inconsistent? As if this were 1954? My daughter’s at the stage where she’s beating everything up, pummeling toys, books, my belly. (Bruises, I got them.) And okay, so she’s three months old, and just practicing her motor skills. But still…when she bats her dolls in the face with abandon, there’s this little idiotic part of me that wonders…

    Comment by An ExtraordinaryLife on July 7, 2010
  3. “free to be you and me” one of the BEST albums ever! that should be in everyone’s playlist.

    but i’m sure sith lords have benefits, too! 🙂

    Comment by Julie on July 7, 2010
  4. Better than being the mom of the Sith Lord’s enemy…

    Comment by Kristabella on July 7, 2010
  5. I used to work with young children and guess who loved the high heels the best?? That’s right! The BOYS! Because they made a cool clicky sound when they walked! They continued their rough and tumble play…in heels. The best part was watching their father’s coming in to pick them up! Right on! More boys need to learn how to hold babies..so Mama’s can take their MUCH needed breaks!
    .-= suzanne´s last blog ..Giggles =-.

    Comment by suzanne on July 7, 2010
  6. He does often send me pictures of cute monkeys, so I think that evens this out.

    Comment by slynnro on July 8, 2010
  7. So Max was just his Padawan. Very nice.

    Comment by Avitable on July 10, 2010
  8. LMFBAO!!!

    -oooo shyte!

    (caution: the Dark Side can be tempting…but don’t let that fool ya’ ’cause LOVE always prevails!)

    Comment by Nefrettiti Moore on September 10, 2010

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