For Chanukah this year my husband bought me two pairs of flannel pajamas that I handed to him and said, “Here! Buy me these!” He also bought me a gorgeous brand new 35mm lens that I sent him a link to and said,”Here! Buy me this!” I also got two pairs of booties that I bought myself at a really great after-Christmas sale and then I turned to my husband and said, “Oh thank you for my new boots!”

I’m really easy to buy gifts for is what I’m saying.

But honestly, sometimes he gives me gifts I didn’t ask for — like a coffee at exactly the moment I realize that I need a coffee — and those are the most special gifts of all. (Although I really do love that camera lens.) The other day he went to the grocery store and bought me this magazine because he knows me.

You guys, this issue included such gems as This Is Why It’s So Hard To Say No But Why You Should Do It Anyway and 7 Secrets to Saying No (And Not Feeling Guilty About It), which includes actual doable, start-small ACTIONS that I can use in my life, like 1. If you are a people-pleaser by nature, practice in low-stakes settings, suggests psychologist Melissa McCreery. Set a goal that you are going to say no three times a day. No, I don’t want to apply for your store credit card. “Like any skill, it gets easier with practice,” she says.

Hello, 2017 goals.

Other goals:

1. Take naps.

2. Eat brunch more often because brunch is delicious.

3. Click the “forgot password” button fewer times this year than last year. #passwordcrisis

4. Sign up for three newspapers to be delivered to my front door: a local, a national, an international

5. Unsubscribe, unsubscribe, unsubscribe. Repeat.

That’s it, really, because no one cares about resolutions and also we all know by the amount of exercise equipment that shows up really cheap on craigslist at the end of February that people {ME} aren’t very good at keeping resolutions.

Besides I’m already super busy saying no to three things today.