I have written about this before.
I am thin. I am 5 foot 1-and-a-half inches tall.
I weigh, as of this morning, 104 pounds.
I am THIN and HEALTHY. (IS DOES EXIST!)
I eat healthier than I have ever eaten in my lifeâ€”including all sorts of good-for-you things like protein and yogurt and fiber and quinoa and chia seeds.
I also eat many, many delicious thingsâ€”like chocolate buffalo and cookie dough and key lime pieâ€”because food is delicious.
I work out regularlyâ€”three times a week.
I am lazyâ€”and enjoy sitting on my arse in front of my computer or my television.
I take care of my bodyâ€”it’s extremely important to me. I have two daughters and a son. I am the daughter of two parents who have spent much of their lives being overweight. I am the daughter of a parent who has diabetes and heart disease. I have sat on the floor of a hospital room afraid that my dad was going to dieâ€”I do not want my three children to ever, ever have to do this.
I am good to my body.
Sometimes I am not so good to my body.
But here’s the thing: It’s *really* none of your business. I shouldn’t have to explain myself to you, I shouldn’t have to justify my eating and exercise habits.
Me: Have an easy fast.
Him: I would wish you one too, but I don’t need to.
Him: Well, you fast all the time.
Him: Well, you are so skinny.
Me: I am thin because I have a good metabolism, because I exercise on a regular basis, and because I take care of myself.
It has been a week and I have not been able to shake this conversation. Not even one little bit. It hit me so deep, it hit nerves that I didn’t even know I had.
I don’t understand why this is okay.Â
We talk quite a bit these days about fat-shaming.Â We throw words aroundâ€”BULLY.Â And I agree with this, 1000%. These people are bullies, and it is not okay. And I think it’s awesome, truly awesome, that this video was shared no less than 83 times in my Facebook stream.
But why is it okay to bully the thin girls?
But why is it okay to make assumptions, to make judgements, to throw around hints of eating disorders?
But why is it okay to tell someone that they really need to eat a meal?
Why is it okay to bully ANYONE at ANY WEIGHT?
The answer is simple:
It is not.