December 6 13

Every morning I open up my various social media channels.

That’s a lie, really.

They are still open from the night before. They are never, ever closed. My computer is slow and cantankerous and I have exactly no one to blame but myself and I’m not sorry about it. My friend Jen suffers from this same disease and showed me a plugin that allows you to have multiple rows of tabs open so there’s no need for left and right scrolling across the toolbar. It’s a thing of beauty. It’s also a thing of judgement at our house.

Him: Any guesses how many tabs you have open?

Me: 26?

Him: 60!

Me: Is that a lot?

Anyway, back to my social media channels.

There are so many shares.

I really like the shares, If I’m being honest. It’s like I don’t even need a reader anymore! Google reader, who misses you? Not this girl! All of the funny, sensational, listy, heartwarming, outrageous stuff out there on the internet? It’s all neatly showing up right in my Facebook feed and Tweetdeck columns. And these things get shared more and more and more and get pulled up to the top of my Facebook feed and so I’m reading it all. I know lots about knitting out of vaginas and the worst autocorrects and the best vines (why is everybody afraid of love?) and all of the hilarious ways you set your elves on shelves and fake airplane fights about eating dicks what side of my brain I use more than others and all of the cat photos that were ever taken.

And because I like them, I share them too. Videos of Benedict Cumberbatch reciting song lyrics, lip-sync dance offs with Joseph Gordon Levitt, English people filling out maps of the 50 states, things that only anxious people understand.

I see your shares.

And you see mine.

And it’s a thing of beauty.

Because we are all laughing and crying and smiling and awwwwing at the same time.

But there’s something missing.

Something that’s not getting shared, something that’s getting lost behind all of the viral shares.

The stories, the blog posts, the funny thing your kid did last night, the hilarious conversation you had with your grandmother when you tried to teach her how to check email, that time you had your first kiss, that piece you wrote about being a work at home mom, that time you tried on 126 pairs of skinny jeans before you decided that you are a bootcut girl for life, that sad person you saw sleeping atop of the grate downtown, the rage you have for traffic, the scavenger hunt you made for your son’s fifth birthday, that shoebox of bershon-filled photos that you found in your parents’ basement, the day you realized that you have become your mother, that time you danced like Elaine Benes at your company’s holiday party.

They are not viral. They are not top ten lists. They are not sponsored. They are not telling me what to do. They are not telling me what not to do.

But they are equally brilliant, if sometimes not more.

They are your words, your truth, your story.

I would love it if you could leave me a comment today and share something with me.

It could be something you wrote, something you read, something you love.

A blog post.

A photo.

A video of your kid dancing like no one’s watching.

A great story.

A funny tweet.

I’ll go first.

I really, really liked this post. It’s about working from home. It really resonated with me, since my kids seem to have amnesia every single day at 3:30 and I need to remind them in a daily moment not unlike one that might be seen in Groundhog Day that the thing I do at home in front of my computer? It’s called working.

Well, it’s not always working, I guess. Last night while I was at the Media Profile holiday party wearing a dress that was too small and drinking Jack Daniels with THE Jack Daniels (or, you know, a fake replica of him) and fighting with superhero costumes in the photobooth, my kids were at home baking brownie cupcakes in my kitchen. It was genius really, because it was both math homework AND science homework in one.

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And I got to come home to brownies, which really makes it like Home Ec homework too, then.

And a house that didn’t burn down.

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  1. YAY! Your house didn’t burn down!

    Here is something that I love: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10152943334185311&set=vb.831120310&type=3&theater

    Comment by Sandy on December 6, 2013
  2. ohmigosh. I love her.

    Thankyou!

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  3. I wrote this about my grandma who passed last week. http://www.girlinaboyhouse.blogspot.ca/2013/12/grandma-fern.html

    Comment by Nicole Boyhouse on December 6, 2013
  4. I’m so sorry to hear this Nicole. This is such a beautiful postβ€”thank you for sharing it!

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  5. This is my typical morning, taking my 3 mini Me’s to our caregiver’s home… The littlest in his dinosaur PJ ‘s with breakfast still on his face…giving some mommy love ..this is my happiness, my heart and my joy. Thanks for asking πŸ™‚ https://vine.co/v/bt0xJ31Em2g

    Comment by Sherrie Guthrie on December 6, 2013
  6. I won’t tell you how many time I watched this. Man, that’s a really cute moment.

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  7. I am pretty sure you know everything about me since I’m an oversharer.

    But I would like to point out that I’m down to two (2!!) sweet and low’s in my medium coffee! I’m trying to learn to love black coffee.

    Comment by Kristabella on December 6, 2013
  8. Haha. I love that this is what you shared! πŸ™‚

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  9. Ha! That’s all I think about that time of the morning!

    Comment by Kristabella on December 6, 2013
  10. I love the picture of you with the little Jack Daniels man. The drink itself is something I can do without. πŸ™‚

    I wrote this, and it’s pretty relevant to who I am: http://alyinponderland.com/2013/09/29/this-is-your-brain/

    Comment by aly on December 6, 2013
  11. Oh Aly, I remember reading this and just, just, devouring every word, I loved it so.

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  12. I love my son so i will share what has caught me off guard this week in regards to him. He knows things that I didn’t teach him! He is “almost two” (Thank you Aunty for teaching him this), he can sing “One, Two Buckle my shoe… by himself. (Thank you day care) But what I want to know is who taught him to play basketball? I took him to the gym with me this past week I figured he could use the time to run around the gym floor to burn off the energy while I did a workout. He wanted to play basketball instead, I didn’t even know he knew what a basketball was. I am not ready to not even know my almost 2 year old yet. Maybe he has been watching the viral video of Titus with his trick shots.

    Comment by Dawn on December 6, 2013
  13. I remember that feeling…when they do things on their own without you knowing. It’s crazy, eh?

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  14. I was so happy yesterday because I got REAL COMMENTS on my blog post! From like, more than two people! Yay. So I’ll share that post again, just because I liked it:

    http://loulousviews.blogspot.ca/2013/12/selfie-control.html

    And! My post about stocking stuffers, and my TV segment:

    http://loulousviews.blogspot.ca/2013/12/awesome-stocking-stuffers-ideas-and-my.html

    xoxo

    Comment by Loukia on December 6, 2013
  15. including one from me! πŸ˜‰

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  16. Indeed! It was like an old school blogging day yesterday. Thank you for your comment, lovely. xoxo

    Comment by Loukia on December 6, 2013
  17. I’ll be honest and say that the majority of my favorite bloggers, save a few like you, do not blog anymore. Or if they do it’s only once a month. Maybe. If I’m lucky. It’s sad, but I can’t say anything because I’m just as bad. I started a new blog and then quit it two months later. I just can’t do it anymore. My life is…well my kids lives aren’t sharable anymore. There is too much going on and I just can’t. Anyway. This is what I’ll link you to: http://anymommyoutthere.com/2013/10/the-whole-village.html

    My friend Stacey is doing foster care right now. First time ever. That post of hers is from October, but it has stuck with me. Made me really realize how little community I have where I live, which wasn’t her point, but still. ha.

    It’s time for me to move, this I’m sure of. Just not exactly sure how yet. So hey, there are two things for you. πŸ™‚

    Comment by Issa on December 6, 2013
  18. I know…so many not blogging anymore. I really miss reading a lot of my favorites.

    Thank you for sharing this post.

    (Want to move to Toronto?)

    Comment by ali on December 6, 2013
  19. Ha. That is a bit far. πŸ™‚ Also if you guys have this level of cold all winter, that we’re having this week, I don’t think I could deal. Negative temps for days make me kinda stabby!

    Comment by Issa on December 6, 2013
  20. First of all, THANK YOU SO MUCH for appreciating my post on being a work from home mom. It means a lot, and if I resonated with more than one person, it makes me all warm inside. I so agree-the crazy stuff, the obnoxious, the meant-to-be noticed or exhibitionist or outrageous, that goes viral, while people’s lovely thoughts and stories, the things that would resonate the most with us, those seem to disappear. I love anything on Katja Wulfers’ blog, http://www.jackstrawlane.com/, and I WAIT for Jeni to share from her blog, http://www.highlyirritable.com. (besides looking for you in my feed.). If anyone is interested, today I shared why I’m a selective cheapskate. ttp://www.beniceorleavethanks.com/2013/12/06/10-things-im-too-cheap-to-pay-full-price-for/

    Comment by mara on December 6, 2013
  21. I just want people to start sharing this stuff more too…and not just the viral-y stuff.

    I love Katja and Jeni too. So much.

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  22. I really love this post, and would like to add a “what I wrote” bit…but it’s a sad post, it’s about closing my blog for good. (Very vague, but it’s because my husband’s x-wife stalks me and then uses what she believes she reads (i.e. what she makes up and attributes to me) in court. Yes, blatant perjury. And I just can’t handle it anymore. Daaaah!)

    http://www.heidikins.com (no more of a link required, it’s the only post there now. Sob.)

    xox

    Comment by heidikins on December 6, 2013
  23. I am so, so so sorry that you had to close your blog because of this. That is awful. HUGS.

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  24. My last blog post is about getting socks for Christmas but the one before that is about Girooses. Don’t know what one is? Well there is a slide showing animals having sex, thus you get Girooses. Okay not real animals but two giant stuffed animals. http://www.alwaysaredhead.com

    Comment by AlwaysARedhead on December 6, 2013
  25. Off to read it! I will admit, I am intrigued. πŸ™‚

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  26. I write a blog to chronicle the goings-on with my baby boy, and I just published a new post this evening! πŸ™‚

    http://amagicallittlejourney.blogspot.com/

    Comment by Lisa on December 6, 2013
  27. Thank you, thank you for commenting. Your little turkey is just too adorable. Happy birthday to him!

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  28. It is great to read about what people love and what makes them happy. This is a post I wrote recently that seemed to resonate with a lot of people (although I NEVER get comments on my posts. People always post on my FB page, but never on the blog!)
    http://www.theamazingadventures.com/blog/2013/11/the-lost-phone-message.html

    Comment by Abigail on December 7, 2013
  29. comments seem to have fallen off the blogging planet, sadly! I wish more people left them!

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  30. I love this so much that I shared it on Twitter and hope that everyone will join in!

    This is something I wrote last year: http://www.yummymummyclub.ca/blogs/sharon-devellis-inside-scoop/20121210/the-true-spirit-of-christmas?s=sd

    Comment by Sharon on December 7, 2013
  31. thank you Sharon. I really, truly believe this so much. I hope other people will too!

    I love reading these kinds of postsβ€”and you know how much I love that post of yours. It should most definitely be shared.

    xoxo

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  32. What a good idea Ali, because yes, there are so many things I want to read and I just don’t know where they are! I am off to read a few of the links on here as well!

    Heres a post I wrote a month ago about a trip we had just taken. And with our current weather situation here in the west, I wish I was there again!

    http://www.mcgivenfamilychaos.blogspot.ca/2013/11/san-francisco-baby.html

    Comment by AMY on December 7, 2013
  33. Sigh. Yes. I love San Francisco…and its weather.

    Comment by ali on December 7, 2013
  34. 1. I just love your blog, your tweets, your family…aint no surprise, I feel like I comment all the time (stalkermuch, cheri?)
    2. I get lots of hits on my blog but mostly comments made by my sister – which is great – but also kinda’ sad.
    3. I FB all the time about my kids and their shenanigans.
    This is the most recent pic, but I actually kept it to myself but happy to share here…it’s not every day Batman takes some time to relax with an 1000 piece puzzle. (oh wait, I can’t share it yet since I have not yet published the post…!(still such a newb).
    4. I love this piece since I knew EVERYTHING you mentioned (even vaginal knitting – no thanks to you – that was seriously one of the most bizarre and gross things I’ve witnessed) plus had an opportunity to see others – I never know how to find other cool bloggers with great content – so thanks! Now I have a few other blogs to stalk πŸ˜‰

    Comment by Cheri on December 8, 2013
  35. Hi Ali! I am a fairly new reader to your blog, but in the spirit of sharing, I’m also a new writer of a blog of my very own, incredibly new! Check out my first post! http://deepintheheartland.blogspot.com/2013/12/another-giant-leap.html

    Also in the spirit of sharing, I’ve been meaning to create a list of blogs I love, to share on my blog, and my goal is to figure that out during my next blogging session, perhaps tomorrow. Maybe you’ll see yourself there soon!

    Comment by Jen Karvo on December 11, 2013
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