May 16 11

(Grab your crackers. There’s cheese ahead.)

Thirteen years ago, we were two crazy kids who were not quite 20 and just barely 23 who got married in Wisconsin in what we sometimes refer to as The Wedding That Would Make a Fantastic Reality Show. It was a comedy of errors, to say the least. It’s hard to pick the things that I wouldn’t do differently.

The band? The band. You guys, the band. Apparently, they were a lot more religious than we had anticipated and they brought their own GIANT FENCE to separate the men and the women and refused to play unless the fence was up and all women were on the women’s side and all men were on the men’s side. No. I am not kidding.

The photographer? Where to start. He took about 25 pictures the entire evening, including exactly TWO of the bride and groom together, and in one of them, the bride has her eyes closed. So, that means that there is exactly one professional photo of the bride and groom on what is supposed to be the most special day of their lives, and it’s kind of terrible shot. No. I am not kidding.

The chuppah? I was actually really excited about our wedding canopy. All white, I had requested. Plain, simple, beautiful. Instead of all white, what the wedding coordinators heard was “wrap it in white bedsheets and then decorate it in yellow and white polka dot ribbon and green shrubbery.” No. I am not kidding.

It was almost like everything that could go wrong, just, well, did. And then some more stuff went wrong. The food was bad, the flowers were weed-like, my dress required a last-minute sleeve addition.

I cried an awful lot on our wedding day.

But you know what?

There’s was only one way to go from there. UP.

And that’s exactly the way it’s gone.


Baby, thanks for lifting me up for the last 13 years. I can’t believe how far we’ve come. I can’t wait to see how far we get to go.

  1. I had to comment on this. Today is also my wedding anniversary and I feel exactly the same way about our wedding day. The lights were so dim during the ceremony that nobody could see anything, the violinist was terrible, we ran out of food, the band was so bad that nobody would dance, the best man was supposed to act as the MC and was so nervous he said two words and wouldn’t say any more, and on top of it all, I had the flu and had a fever and chills and was throwing up all day and the following three days. It was not awesome. Plus I couldn’t admit how awful it was to my parents because they planned the whole thing. But today it has been three years, my husband is deployed to Iraq for over six months now (out of 12) and we have a nine month old son. When he returns in the winter we will have been married 3.5 years and only actually lived together 1.5 years due to training and deployments. Today he sent me the most incredible love letter I have ever read today. Only the second love letter he has ever written for me (first was when we were 17) and you are right, there is no place to go but up when you have a terrible wedding and it has without a doubt been the best decision I have ever made.


    Comment by Jill on May 17, 2011
  2. Aw, I love this! (And think we should start a support group for those who endured Ridiculous Mechitza Fights, but that’s neither here nor there.) Wishing you both many, many more years of “UP.” xoxo


    Comment by metalia on May 17, 2011
  3. This is great. Too good to make up, I love that. Definitely sounds TV show worthy!

    Do I smell “I DO- The Sequel” in Las Vegas?


    Comment by tena on May 17, 2011
  4. Oh I loved this. Thankfully, wedding days are in no way reflective of a marriage….in most cases….probably.

    You two kids are amazing together, and I truly look up to your marriage.

    So lovely!


    Comment by Brittany on May 17, 2011
  5. Beautiful – and if I didn’t read it on your blog, I would so not believe this actually happened. Not a Shakespearean tragedy, a COMEDY!!! It’ll make for great stories to tell your kids in years to come! But seriously, at Orthodox weddings, do the bands REALLY separate the sexes for dancing? (NB: Have only been to Progressive/Reform weddings.) Also, dropped by your sis’ workplace today — very cool!!! BIGGEST office ever (but she’s probably told you that). :)


    Comment by Heidi on May 17, 2011
  6. Congratulations, lady!! (And gent…) I wonder if all weddings have hitches and glitches… but this one sounds… holy moley, girl. I’m chuckling… but clearly it’s made no dent in the marriage at all. Weddings are for but a day – the marriage lasts forever. I’m pretty sure you’re #winning.

    (PS – the band? That is killing me… hee!!)


    Comment by Grumble Girl on May 17, 2011
  7. I have seen you two together. You can see the love you have for each other.


    Comment by Mandi Bone on May 17, 2011
  8. Love this! Happy anniversary to two of my favorite people!

    I hope one day to be as happy as you two are!



    Comment by Kristabella on May 17, 2011
  9. Crappy wedding = Amazing marriage. Every time. Mozel tov.


    Comment by Rae Ann on May 17, 2011
  10. Aw, I love this. *sniff*

    Happy Anniversary!


    Comment by Angella on May 17, 2011
  11. That’s so sweet. :’-) Happy Anniversary! xoxo


    Comment by Nenette on May 17, 2011
  12. Awwwwww!! Happy Anniversary!


    Comment by Shannon on May 17, 2011
  13. Happy Anniversary! I’m so happy that everything has worked out so well for you and that you have a great marriage. Inspiring :)


    Comment by Heather on May 17, 2011
  14. Wowza – first happy anniversary BUT the band?? That is so crazy. It may have been a crappy day but I love that it’s a hilarious story foryou guys to look back at!


    Comment by sara on May 18, 2011
  15. A FENCE?!

    Also, congratulations to you two!


    Comment by Sensibly Sassy on May 20, 2011
  16. Happy anniversary! I think Gav should bring back the bangs look, too.


    Comment by Avitable on May 26, 2011
  17. Happy anniversary to both of you.It seems that you are very happy.Congratulation


    Comment by hongvan on June 21, 2011
  18. Ha! I love it. And I love that you mentioned Josh Groban. I love Josh Groban. :)


    Comment by Brenda W on October 27, 2011

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