June 3 10

We used to go out a lot. I mean, we had a live-in nanny for six years. If the kids were in bed and the nanny had no other plans…it was free babysitting. And that was back in the days when all three kids were in bed by 7:30. The good old days. But gone are the days of the nannies and the early bedtimes (if all three aren’t awake at 10pm, I consider it full of win). And most of my work gets done in the evenings and, well, I’m single most of the time. I’d say that in the past year we’ve left the kids with a babysitter less than a dozen times, and the majority of them were when family was visiting.

But last night we got a babysitter for no reason at all. At 6:15 we were out the door with absolutely no plans. The rainy city was our oyster. We ended up here because, dude, it’s Richard Blais, and because we had a gift card from a lovely honorary family member who wanted to make sure that the foodie got to eat there before we left the dirty south. But, if you’ve ever been there, you know that’s it’s kind of a busy and loud cafeteria-style place where the eats are good, but they really try to speed you through your meal.

By 7:30, we were done.

And because I’d rather lick a New York City cab than see the new Sex and the City movie


we had to come up with something to do. There was no way we were going to go home. At 7:30. I have my pride, you know.

So, we did what everyone does on a date.

We went to Super Target and Barnes & Noble.

(Too bad we couldn’t sign up for our AARP cards right then and there)

We walked up and down the aisles at Target, picking out things we need to have for our new home. We looked at hampers and bedding and mirrors and bar stools and towels. We bought a shower curtain for the kids’ bathroom.

Then it was books and coffee.

I am a compulsive book buyer. Yes. Someday I will have THIS room.

I blame it on the fact that I work in the book industry. “But, it’s not my fault…I am supporting my trade. The more books that are bought, the better chance of there being jobs in books.” AHEM. Yes, I realize it’s a lousy-ass argument, but I can’t help it. I can spend hours walking around a book store just looking at covers. I start in the fiction section and make a pile of twelve or thirteen six or seven books I want to read. And then, somehow, I always end up in the history section. And then, depending on my latest passion project, I will pick up a good handful of books.

Right now it’s The Pacific War. And last night it was Eugene Sledge at Peleliu and Okinawa.

(For the record, it was Bobby Flay’s Burgers, Fries, and Shakes for him)

We stayed until it closed.

(10pm! We are crazy!)

We went home, crawled into bed, and watched Dexter.

(Two of the kids were still up, of course.)

It probably seems lame. And I fully admit to having somewhat geriatric ways. I mean, sometimes I even steal condiments from restaurants. It’s usually only Chick.fil.a sauce, but still.

So, yes, lame. But, I don’t know. It was such a nice night. And it was exactly what I needed. I got to eat a meal, buy a shower curtain, have a coffee and read without cutting someone else’s food, without getting anyone a drink, without my coffee getting cold, without having to read the same page 45 times, without yelling “JUST BECAUSE WE ARE IN TARGET DOES NOT MEAN WE ARE BUYING BARBIES OMG!”


  1. If it makes you feel better. I am jealous. I would love to have dinner and a book store sounds like a great date to me.


    Comment by april h on June 3, 2010
  2. our last date looked very similar. oldly enough i was in the history section and jon was in the diet/cookbooks. it was so simple, yet so refreshing!


    Comment by rachel b on June 3, 2010
  3. Your date sounds perfect to me! (Says the girl who goes to Costco (because we don’t have Target) and Chapters while on dates with her husband).


    Comment by Angella on June 3, 2010
  4. That sounds like a perfect evening to me! I’m glad you guys got to Flip Burger!


    Comment by Kristabella on June 3, 2010
  5. Bookstore trips are pretty much all my husband and I ever used to do when we went out. They’re air conditioned, and have cookies. What else do you need for a good time? And yeah, as an author I’m “in the industry” too. I limit my book buying to Random House, since I ridiculously tell myself those purchases might increase the size of my next advance. And I semi-believe myself.

    I’m gullible that way.


    Comment by *Pieces of My Life* on June 3, 2010
  6. Sounds like a great date, and my hubby and I have done the exact same thing many a time!
    .-= Kathy´s last blog ..I really hate roller coasters =-.


    Comment by Kathy on June 3, 2010
  7. My son thinks Target is where Cars are born. It’s BAD. I can’t go in there with him at all.

    Also, I have that shower curtain.


    Comment by Maria on June 3, 2010
  8. I can’t even remember the last time the hubby and I went out on a date. When my oldest daughter was home on leave I should have asked her to watch the 4 y/o so we could go escape for a while and enjoy a meal, similar to the one you described above. But the thought escaped me. Hmmmm, I wonder if the USAF would mind letting her come home for a long weekend so we can get that date night in?


    Comment by Audrey-Barking Mad on June 3, 2010
  9. I can spend hours in Borders.

    I have the same shower curtain in my kids bathroom! It’s so cute.


    Comment by Alicia on June 3, 2010
  10. I’m trying to figure out if it’s a third kid thing or not. I swear I used to be more exciting. But an evening in Borders is my absolute favorite thing. A trip to Target alone sounds amazing too.

    Maybe that’s what it is. The alone thing. No kids. Quiet. Yes, that’s probably it.


    Comment by Issa on June 3, 2010
  11. I don’t think I’ve gone on a date with my husband since before we were married and actually were dating. Cripes, we are awesome!

    (where ‘awesome’ means ‘lame,’ of course)

    Also, gah, we have to ask customers so many questions when they show up at the cash wrap, it’s probably just a matter of time before we start offering to sign them up for AARP, too.


    Comment by foradifferentkindofgirl (fadkog) on June 3, 2010
  12. We finally got a babysitter and yet we still can’t find the time for a date. Couple time for us is when we get the kids to a drop-off party and we pop into Chapters/Indigo for a Starbucks. Yup, so I get it, I so get it.

    Hope you’re well, haven’t been by in a long time, glad to see your smiling face :)


    Comment by Karen MEG on June 3, 2010
  13. First of all, I am going to Target tomorrow to see if they have that shower curtain here – need a new one and thats wonderful!

    So uh, yeah, we got a babysitter last friday night. No plans so we went to a friends restaurant, at a low-key dinner. Went to the waterfront to take a 10 minute walk (it was cold rainy & windy but we tried), then stopped and bought a bottle of Lambic Frambois on the way home. No plans, just needed to get Out.

    And yes, Hubs and I have gone to Target on a date before, no shame there. Glad you had a nice night.


    Comment by monstergirlee on June 3, 2010
  14. That sounds fabulous. Now does your hubby let you call it a date or does he get all crazy and tell you how you have been married so many years and you are grown adults with children and you are just living your life. What? its just me. Damn, I thought so.


    Comment by DE Heather on June 3, 2010
  15. Did you try any of the cocktails at Flip? I wanted to, but was there during lunch and needed to not take a nap in the afternoon.


    Comment by Avitable on June 4, 2010
  16. Yeah, sounds like many a date Roomie and I have been on. :) Truly lovely. A night out with the hubs where someone else (anyone else!) cooks for me, shopping without needing to fight a pull toward the toy section, and BOOKS! Pretty ideal, if you ask me. :)


    Comment by Nenette on June 5, 2010
  17. We get a ‘babysitter’ – meaning Adam – once every two weeks for an hour to go to marriage counseling.

    But this summer we get two months of free babysitting. We are kind of freaking out because ‘WHAT THE HELL ARE WE GOING TO DO!?!?’

    Uh – when did you just start using proper capitalization and punctuation and stuff??


    Comment by Miss Britt on June 5, 2010
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