July 15 08

last night i watched The Diving Bell and the Butterfly…which, by the by, is easily one of the best movies i’ve ever seen…it’s the true story of Elle Magazine editor Jean-Dominique Bauby who suffers a massive stroke, leaving him mentally aware but completely paralyzed with the exception of his left eye. he literally blinks out his memoir. it’s amazing.

(ps. i tend to use the word ‘literally’ when i really mean ‘figuratively’…my boss AND Kristin AND Ted Mosby would not be happy to know i do this. but in this instance, he did LITERALLY blink out his memoir. hooray for good usage…ahem. moving on)

(no..i guess i did that wrong. again. seriously. this is what i get PAID to do. ha!)

so, after i finished watching the movie and the husband left for hockey (at 10:30. pm. canadian men are CRAZY) i was supposed to be packing for blogher…but i received an unexpected facebook message from a friend, and spent the entire night up, first im’ing with her and then re-reading my senior yearbook cover to cover.

“i’ve never had friends like i did when I was 12, jesus does anyone?” – Stand By Me

when asked “what were you like in high school?” celebrities always answer the same way…i was a giant dork. i was ugly. i was incredibly unpopular. high school was rough for me. and , obviously, you just know that someone is lying. there are people who loved high school.

and i’m one of them.

sure, looking back, i was chubbier than i am now, and spent two years with horrible bangs and when i finally grew them out i dyed my own hair and instead of red, it came out purple. just in time for my senior photo. (fabulous) and the fashion? can we not talk about the fashion?

nothing was more mortifying than showing up to school one day in your new gap vest (yes, it was a vest. and it was plaid. and it was god-awful) only to find that your 113-year-old English teacher is wearing the exact. same. one.

TRUE story.

the four of us. we were quite the posse (at least that’s what THEY called us back then. ‘the posse‘)

(only i went to an Orthodox Jewish school where you had to wear knee-covering skirts and sleeves…lest you spend your free periods in detention. guess who spent almost every one of her free periods in detention for fighting the man? um. yes. like daughter, like mother)

but the memories we made. they are still funny. like the time we wandered the streets of Boston trying to find a place that didn’t exist (Bontempo road?). and the time Eytan called Becca a ‘porker’ in the library. like discovering the Frappuccino. like the time we went to the Jerry Springer show and saw the REAL 911 EMERGENCY. like the time i cut ALL of Becca’s hair off. like the time we smashed my jeep on the way home from the Cranberries concert. like the fact that we tried to teach ourselves a foreign language by using Encarta. like the time that Vlad stole me a pair of bowling shoes….the music, the movies, the bowling (what? we are from Chicago…we bowled a lot), the mix tapes, the boys, the concerts, the shopping. the memories.

memories of a lifetime.

i just wish that the three of them were still in my life the way they were then. one is in New York. two are in Chicago. We are all doing different things. We are married. We are babied. we are expecting. we are doctors and speech therapists and writers. we are religious and not religious. i think of them a lot. and i miss them.

last night was like a little gift. a gift of memory. one of the only things that Jean-Dominique Bauby had left. his imagination, his memory, and his eye. it’s an important one…MEMORY. i’m thankful. and i think i’ll shall blink me out a memoir one of these days.

  1. Good times. I remember Rosenwald wearing that vest…


    Comment by Noah on July 15, 2008
  2. I went to an all girl yeshiva- with the skirts and the sleeves. Oh and when we painted our nails in blue nailpolish they came around with nail polish remover. fun times!

    Mayas last blog post..8 months old


    Comment by Maya on July 15, 2008
  3. NOO! Literally blinking out a memoir would involve a memoir falling OUT OF HIS EYE. I’m hoping that didn’t happen, because ewww.

    JuJuBees last blog post..The WOOD Anniversary…Heh.


    Comment by JuJuBee on July 15, 2008
  4. well, shit.

    i promise i’m a good editor! ahahaha!


    Comment by ali on July 15, 2008
  5. i want to see that movie have heard great things about it.you’re going to blogher? have fun Ali!


    Comment by LAVENDULA on July 15, 2008
  6. I too admit that I loved high school. I have some really great memories and I’m actually really looking forward to my 10 year reunion. (It’s in October.) I had a great group of 6 friends that we did everything together and I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything.

    Also we bowled a lot too! Maybe it’s an Illinois and a Texas thing?

    Lissas last blog post..Classic Melissa… The Underwear Edition Part 4549837


    Comment by Lissa on July 15, 2008
  7. Seeing we have similar taste in TV, Gap vests, and movies I will have to rent that one.

    That is, WHEN I GET BACK FROM BlogHer!!!!!!!!!!

    ohmommys last blog post..I legally changed my baby’s name and it felt great.


    Comment by ohmommy on July 15, 2008
  8. I was awesome in high school AND I was a total dork.

    My two favourite “literally” uses lately: “You can go online and literally take a test drive.” Um. No, you can’t. That’s almost certainly “virtually”. “I literally have my eye on you.” Ew.

    I never bought any of my yearbooks. I just never had the money and didn’t like asking my parents for cash. But a girl I had a crush on, and who I was pretty sure hated me in the 9th grade, sent me our yearbook from that first year of highschool.

    Backpacking Dads last blog post..GoogleHer? I don’t even know her


    Comment by Backpacking Dad on July 15, 2008
  9. Detention, eh? At least you didn’t have a school skirt! :)

    I’ve been meaning to see The Diving Bell and the Butterfly; you just convinced me to add it to my Netflix queue.

    metalias last blog post..Sticky Fingers


    Comment by metalia on July 15, 2008
  10. I loved my Junior year but detested my Senior.

    I would never want to relive those years. Now college, another story.

    gorillabunss last blog post..honesty is not the best policy


    Comment by gorillabuns on July 15, 2008
  11. John McCain’s time as a POW? More pleasant than my four years in high school. I totally should be famous after that experience. Alas, I am not.


    Comment by Mike on July 15, 2008
  12. I will admit that I totally loved high school and bawled for days when it was over. Not the school part, of course. I had a lot of friends and the fact we were all getting separated crushed me.

    Then I went to college and realized high school was lame.

    My high school fashion faux pas are numerous. I have to busy out the yearbook and look. I mean, HELLO I had bangs that took up half my head. That alone probably lost me some cool points.

    heathers last blog post..Wii All Scream


    Comment by heather on July 15, 2008
  13. I’m one who didn’t love high school, but I did love that movie! I didn’t think I was going to make it thru the first 15 min or so, but then it really grabbed me. It’s one that sticks with you afterwards.


    Comment by Wendy on July 15, 2008
  14. I haven’t seen the movie, but the book was truly beautiful.

    Dis last blog post..Hurley – triumphant runner!


    Comment by Di on July 15, 2008
  15. I loved high school – I feel ashamed to say that because it seems like its cooler to say you were an outcast and misunderstood, etc., etc., but I had a ton of friends and I had a blast…

    Don Mills Divas last blog post..Help a sister out?


    Comment by Don Mills Diva on July 15, 2008
  16. I guess I’m in the “indifferent about high school” category. I didn’t love it, but I don’t want to do it again.

    I think this time in my life is the best part so far.

    Jennifers last blog post..Dead Woman Blueberry Picking


    Comment by Jennifer on July 15, 2008
  17. I love looking through my old yearbooks. So fun!

    And I have no idea how to use literally or figuratively either. I thought you used literally correctly in that sentence!


    Comment by Karly on July 15, 2008
  18. I have one yearbook left and I love looking at the large hair everyone seemed to have, even me.

    Kristies last blog post..I’m thinking of changing my blog name to Thistletwat*


    Comment by Kristie on July 15, 2008
  19. Good Lord…high school seems like a lifetime ago. Talk about having the world on a string! Good times…

    Nap Wardens last blog post..Poor Poor Pitiful Me…


    Comment by Nap Warden on July 15, 2008
  20. Gap Vest – Did it have different patterns of plaid on it?

    If so, I had the exact same one.


    Comment by Keri on July 15, 2008
  21. Figuratively speaking, I hated high school. I literally only skimmed the circle of cool people, not really accepted but not rejected either.

    I have no idea if I used those two words correctly. I probably should care if I did, but since I don’t get paid to write, screw it.

    Queen of Shake Shakes last blog post..36 Hours of Solitude


    Comment by Queen of Shake Shake on July 15, 2008
  22. I thought high school was a blast.. I kinda ruled the school – never had to have a hall pass, the principal loved me, etc. I even was in this program where I got out of school for three hours to read to little kids for 45 minutes. And then I went to the mall. Just because I’m cool like that.

    Alas, I was also kinda a bitch in high school (even though I still maintain that I was just shy). Oh well.

    Sarahs last blog post..Girls Night Out


    Comment by Sarah on July 15, 2008
  23. I didn’t love high school, nor did I hate it, most of the time. I had some fun but spent too much time wanting to be more popular. I had my own click of girlfriends tho, we were pretty tight and did alot of stuff together.
    Alas, I don’t know any of them anymore except my BFF who I reconnected with at my 20 yr reunion. Now we totally stay in touch and visit each other periodically even. She’s so much fun.


    Comment by monstergirlee on July 15, 2008
  24. Oh, and I had it figured out by the time I started as a Senior – stopped caring what others thought and enjoyed myself alot more (also, I was the “token punk” at my Catholic HS – that was fun trying to fit my look within the uniform guidelines)

    monstergirlees last blog post..Jumping on the Bed – Day 2


    Comment by monstergirlee on July 15, 2008
  25. I didn’t hate high school. I was a band geek, but I had a GREAT group of friends and we had a lot of fun and a lot of laughs! I think no matter how your high school experience is, it definitely molds you.

    Kristabellas last blog post..Where I Try Not To Mention BlogHer More Than 10 Times


    Comment by Kristabella on July 15, 2008
  26. Now I want to pull out my yearbook!

    But I have done enough weeping this week already. I’ll save it for next week :)

    Angellas last blog post..My Future’s So Bright, I Gotta Wear Shades


    Comment by Angella on July 15, 2008
  27. I love love love high school!

    And I wasn’t one of the beautiful people.

    Teena in Torontos last blog post..Another personality test


    Comment by Teena in Toronto on July 15, 2008

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